Editor’s note: This post comes from our new friend – blogger Alexis Bonari
We don’t mean to be flip. Divorce can be a devastating experience that leaves you feeling lonely, confused, and uncertain about your future. Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, that may be a best-case scenario. But there’s always a silver lining. And even though there will be some things that are hard about your divorce, there are a number of reasons you can remember to be happy about your sudden bachelorhood:
1. No more trips to the Pottery Barn. Or to Bed, Bath and Beyond. Or to that rustic little B&B in Vermont. Pick your poison. Now you’re done with it. All those Sunday afternoons you may have spent nesting or doing “romantic” things that really just bored you can now be spent doing things you’d rather be doing. Unless, of course, you’d rather be at Pottery Barn, then never mind.
2. No more visits from your in-laws. They may have been good for a weekend of babysitting, or even a wonderful, home-cooked meal, but the surprise visits and nagging about when you should get that promotion at work were enough to drive you over the edge. No more will you have to endure the probing questions that only thinly mask disappointment and condemnation. No more will you have to endure seemingly endless stories about the pansies in the garden or the goings on down at the lodge.
3. You can leave your socks on the floor. Or leave the toilet seat up. Or wash the dishes once a week. You no longer have to hear incessant pleas to take out the trash or to keep the ribbon drawer tidy. Your “man cave” is your whole house, and you can do as you please. (Note: Don’t go too crazy with your new relaxed attitude on house work. You will still want to invite a lady over at some point, and your house should have a welcoming vibe and not send her screaming.)
4. Eat pizza every night if you want. There will be no more arguments about what’s for dinner. If you’re in the mood for pizza – or Chinese or wings or sushi – have it. It doesn’t matter if you “had that last week.” You are the decider now.
5. No awkward couple dates. You know the ones: You meet up at some new fusion restaurant with some new couple that your wife met through work or through her book club, and while your wife is having a fabulous time chatting it up with her new bestie, you’re stuck locking eyes with the tax accountant who loves badminton sitting across from you. And you’re expected to find the same cosmic connection that your wives have. Now you can pick your friends – and your dates. You don’t have to hear, “Oh, we’re going to dinner with the Joneses on Friday. You remember Bob? You love Bob!” Continue reading