Editor’s note: We’re introducing a new column here at SB – “True Stories.” These are real-life Sudden Bachelor’s writing in. For all you reader’s out there – please feel free to comment and give our brothers some advice and encouragement.

My Ex-wife and I were living together and she began going over to this guy’s house, who we both knew. First it was for the afternoon or for the morning or for the evening and then she wound up going for the morning and would not come home! I was left alone at home by myself. I filed for divorce and now that it’s final, I find adjusting very difficult. We had been married for almost twenty years! I don’t go to bars much and I barely drink, so I didn’t fall into that route as so many do. She now is living with this guy. I ran into her two times last year and I always feel uncomfortable around her. I don’t speak to him – as he repulses me (he has let his beard and hair grow and it’s greasy and smelly and he has gone from fat to obese and he seldom bathes and stinks!) There are times I am happy by myself and there are times that I wish I had all of the tender loving moments that a couple share. I do however mentally find it hard to adjust to.